Realistic Expectations: The Needs of the Children Part 2

Submitted by mark on Tue, 07/12/2011 - 21:39
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Realistic Expectations: The Needs of the Children
Psalm 127:3

I.  Introduction

II.  Things you already know.

III.   Guidelines for Parents

A.  The first priority:  for your children to hear and respond to the Gospel.

B.  Children need both parents in the home.

C.  Children should be reared, not raised.

D.  Each child is unique.

E.  Meet your child where he is.

IV. Five Basic Needs of Children

A.  Unconditional love

Matthew 3:17

1.  God's kind of love.

2.  Parents resolving their problems through their children give conditional love.

3.  Four Things Which Kill a Child's Spirit

1.  Always feeling they are bad

2.  Always feeling they are in trouble

3.  Always feeling inadequate

4.  Always hearing their parents compare them to other children

B.  Children need to be ---trained---
Proverbs 22:6

1.  More is ---caught----    than     ---taught----.

Three Ways a Parent can begin to Train a Child

1.  Do it for the child to show them how

2.  Do it with the child assisting each step of the way

3.  Allow the child to do the task without your help.

2.  Authoritative versus ----authoritarian----

When children know what is expected of them and are held accountable, they learn how to be independent and responsible for their own actions.

3.  Allow them to ---make mistakes---.

C.  Children need to be ---nurtured---

D.  Children need genuine, deserved ---praise----.

Statements/questions to use regularly:

1.  I am proud of the choice you just made.

2.  What do you think about  __________ ?

3.  Would you like to have my opinion about that?

4.  Here are several options I think you should consider.

5.  Since we can not find a way to say 'yes', here is why we have to say 'no'.

E.  Children need parents who are ---in control---.

You can not take all the credit, or all the blame, for what your children become.